The full story is told here by Jake Tapper at ABC News

In a nutshell, The Obama Administration has listened to the mounting evidence which shows the ineffectiveness of abstinence-only programs amongst teenagers. It’s proven enough for the people in charge of budgeting the cash to say ok, let’s put this money into something that actually works and fund those programs which teach our children protection, safety and pregnancy prevention instead of just preaching the no word.

(Sorry Sarah, looks like you’re wrong again.)

Just Say No was a wonderful sentiment and we thank Nancy Reagan for making the effort back in the day. The trouble is, it’s one of those good ideas that never actually worked. Not with recreational drugs in the last century, and not with teenage sex, in this one.

I remember that whirlwind campaign. It swept from state to state with countless teens chanting the slogan while wearing t-shirts with the neon pink lettering Just Say no. I also remember vividly the photo essays which followed showing some of those same teenagers, still dressed in the shirts, albeit now ragged and filthy, smoking dope and shooting heroin in schoolyards and condemned buildings. It makes me wonder how many teens out there are having sex and mocking us by hollerng abstinence oh baby abstinence yes yes yes!

Abstinence-only is a great idea. On paper. But in practical terms, it’s crap. In a world where your five year-old can watch television commercials depicting voluptuous young women, bare mid-riffed with sparkling belly rings, sell you a new car, the curiosity phase of growing up is really quite done by the time teenage years come along.

So to think today’s youth can be conned into virginity-retention with a catch-phrase or chastity pledge is more than naive. It’s wishful thinking. By lazy adults.

With each new generation, our children become more aware of their sexuality, and earlier. Our appetite for technology has over-exposed them to life-experiences our grandparents would never have imagined, and it just keeps on rolling.

The ultimate teenage pregnancy prevention program is going to lie in our ability as parents to grow up with our kids and at the very least recognize how different their environment is today, from ours at their age. We need to create open, honest dialogues with them as individuals and genuinely address each of the dilemas presented to them in today’s clime. We need to stop telling them they’re children while expecting them to behave as adults.

Abstinence is a very adult concept. It’s execution requires a stack of willpower, an inner drive to achieve a goal one passionately believes in, and an intensely supportive environment. To think any person between the ages of 12 and 17 has any of these skills, mindsets or supports is beyond ridiculous.

It’s not like smoking. There’s no patch.

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